I am dedicated to working with couples and specialize in developing positive communication and promoting the ability to see situations through your partner's eyes. This will allow an understanding as to why your partner operates as they do.
Unfortunately, commitment to the relationship and each other is sometimes lost as couples deal with life's stressors, children, work, extended families, etc. However, healing is possible, and I work with couples to strengthen the foundation and discover the issues that contribute to a relationship's alienation, disappointment, and loneliness. These are areas where we build bridges of understanding and compassion.
It is possible to improve a relationship if both partners dedicate themselves to working together to create a solid foundation. Together we can examine destructive old habits or triggers from our past that may be interfering with the rewarding relationship we so badly want. I will help you build a healthy connection that is often adversely affected by the relationship examples we receive from our families of origin and past relationships. Let's work to build on strengths and increase intimacy.
Education & Relevant Experience
I am an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who graduated from Pepperdine University with a Master's in Clinical Psychology with an Emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Master's in Education. I have worked with those struggling with various mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, grief, and loss.
I have also worked with the Los Angeles County Probation Department for many years and understand how families may struggle when faced with a member struggling with substance abuse, defiance, and isolation from the family unit. A non-judgmental, safe, and nurturing space encourages clients to open up and share their voices.
As a child, I learned that Jesus Christ sacrificed himself just for me. That was so amazing to me. I am cared about that much by someone? Jesus cares about my pain, my struggle, my heart! He cares about ME. I have, in turn, devoted my career path to helping others and offering hope in times of distress. I currently work with my Pastor, counseling couples and providing premarital counseling. I am grateful to see the church introducing mental health and treatment in a manner that opens doors and breaks down barriers. I find joy in addressing mental health issues and treatment with the love of God attached.
Infertility, Birth Trauma, Miscarriage & Impact on Relationships
I am passionate about working with individuals and families experiencing difficulty becoming pregnant, birth trauma, pregnancy loss, and a child's death. I have personal experience in this area, and I am aware of the guilt and shame often experienced by individuals when pregnancy doesn't occur as expected.
I became a mother after the premature birth of my son at 26 weeks, adoption, and foster care after experiencing miscarriages. My son is now an adult with Autism; however, I was unprepared for his birth and recovery, which forever changed my life and parenting. Therefore, I understand getting pregnant, completing a pregnancy, and parenting are difficult for everyone involved. I welcome couples and individuals to this safe space to share their stories without fear of judgment as feelings of guilt, loss, and shame are expressed.
Unfortunately, this is an area where shame is often so great infertility may never be shared with others in your support system. Infertility subjects relationships to stress and disappointment as couples navigate treatment, uncertainty, and often unexpected feelings toward successful pregnancy and childbirth. I have the skill and personal knowledge to support clients who experience pregnancy loss, stillbirth, miscarriage, pregnancy, and birth trauma.
I am here to listen and assist as the trauma and anxiety of infertility issues are navigated. Family and friends may be a source of support, but it is often challenging to connect with someone who has not experienced infertility issues. Couples must communicate openly and honestly with each other as they move toward their goal. I use the word “goal” because the dream often changes as the journey is navigated.
As the parent of an adult with Autism and a fifteen-year-old with ADHD, I have real-life experience with Neurodiverse individuals. This experience has allowed me to develop an understanding of both those who are Neurodiverse and family, partners, and friends who must develop skills that encourage communication, connection, and an appreciation of the many different ways people may look at the world.
There are many different lenses through which the world can be observed; different isn't wrong, just different. There is strength and resilience in all of us, and those who are Neurodiverse often need assistance with recognizing and developing the skills. Families, partners, and friends also need skills to understand better how a Neurodiverse individual may understand or need to be given information to build understanding.
The end of a relationship is often more important than the beginning when children are involved. Learning to co-parent in a manner that allows children to feel loved, accepted, and secure is essential for their present and future well-being. Therefore, when a relationship is ending or has ended, the roles of all parties should be established and respected. As a co-parent and foster parent, I have experienced difficulty putting my anger and disappointment aside for the child's best interest.
Adding new people and belief systems to a household is often difficult for adults and children. Co-parenting often moves into blended families, which means roles and relationships will again shift and require a new look at expectations. Families can significantly benefit from therapy and psychoeducation to provide the support and guidance necessary to build supportive relationships.
The relationship between mothers and daughters can be one of the most challenging relationships we experience. Mothers and daughters wrestle with loving and accepting each other and trying to change expectations. The connection is ever-changing as mothers adjust to parenting from birth throughout life. Daughters adjust to being parented as they grow and establish necessary boundaries as they become adults.
This relationship also includes developing an independent identity and learning to let go of generational trauma, guilt, jealousy, resentment, forgiveness, and anger while attempting to establish relationships with other family members, friends, and future partners.
As the mother of a fifteen-year-old daughter, I am developing a relationship in which the issues mentioned above are discussed with openness and compassion for both participants in the relationship. Communicating and accepting that each person has a different perspective on life has strengthened the connection.
· Premarital Counseling
· Cultural Issues
· Couples Counseling
· Family Conflict
· Separation Therapy
· Women’s Issues
· Life Transitions
· Anger Management
· Mother/Daughter Conflict
· Blended Family
· Grief and Loss
· Solution Focused Therapy
· Cognitive Based Therapy
· Emotion Focused Therapy